It’s not just their dad, Jon Gosselin that reality TV mom Kate Gosselin, doesn’t want her children to have a relationship with: Kate’s own sister revealed she hasn’t seen the family in over six years because Kate severed all connections to the non-famous relatives.
Kate Gosselin‘s sister, Kendra Wilber, spoke out after years of silence about her Jon & Kate Plus 8 relatives, revealing that she hasn’t seen the twins, 13, or sextuplets, 9, in about six years because Kate has cut off all ties with her children’s extended family. The kids’ dad, Jon Gosselin fears that his ex-wife is isolating the kids from the real world, and the kids’ aunts worry they will one day be heartbroken by the lack of contact.
Kate lives in very close proximity to her sister Kendra, but Kendra explains she has no idea what is going on with her eight nieces and nephews because Kate has pushed her relatives out of her children’s lives and refuses to reconcile with her family.
Kate Gosselin brought twins Mady and Cara, 13, on the Today show so they could tell the world how well-adjusted they are, but the whole thing blew up in Kate’s face when the girls fell silent and didn’t stick to the script. Unfortunately Kate handled the situation in the worst possible way. ”A parent’s job is to protect their child,” not to “pressure” them, Dr. David Gottesfeld, a clinical psychologist for children and adolescents, says.
Kate’s parenting priorities seemed totally out of whack during the interview.
And when the girls didn’t meet Kate’s expectations, she made things even worse for them.
“If this was a normal situation, what you do is reassure them or take the pressure off them but Kate kept pushing them to say what had been practiced,” Dr. Gottesfeld says. “As 13-year-old kids, they’re in a bind there — on one hand they want to please mom, on the other hand they might not agree with what mom is saying. You see kids who wanted to please her or unconsciously had an issue with being on there.”
Geeezzzz and she is such a good mother! NOT! They probably forgot their lines that she wanted them to say!
Is 15 minutes of fame worth a lifetime of repercussions? Jon and Kate Gosselin learned the hard way that there’s a dark side to living in the spotlight. In a Nov. 3 interview for Oprah Winfrey‘s OWN show Where Are They Now?, Jon opened up about how filming his family’s reality TV series Jon and Kate Plus 8 damaged his marriage, his reputation, and his eight young children.
“It just became stressful on the kids and stressful on me,” the former star, 36, said of the show, which aired from 2007 to 2011 on TLC. (In its last two seasons, after the Gosselins’ 2009 divorce, it was renamed Kate Plus 8.) “You’re trying to keep your marriage together, and you’re trying to keep your family ties together.”
Now making ends meet as a waiter in rural Pennsylvania, Jon said his children — twins Cara and Mady, 13, and 9-year-old sextuplets Alexis, Hannah, Aaden, Collin, Leah, and Joel — may have suffered the most. “I saw my kids not growing up normally, like I grew up, and having community,” he confessed.
“Yes, they got to travel the world, and yes, they got these fabulous things, and yes, they have trust funds, and they’re taken care of educationally. Great,” he continued. “But developmentally, they have problems with their peers, and they have problems with talking to other people, and they have problems with wants and needs and manners and morals and what’s right and what’s wrong. I think more so than someone who grows up off TV.”
Jon’s own sense of self was shredded, too, by rumors that he had an affair while still married to Kate. “The most common misperception [is] that I cheated on my wife, that I left my family, that I’m a party boy,” he told Winfrey. “But my family knows the truth.”
Yes, Jon, Everyone knows the truth and your kids have problems because of their parents, not because they grew up on TV for a few years.